Before going any further, I need to make one thing clear: This is not an anti-homosexuality screed. There are a whole lot of people who confuse any criticism of homosexuality as “homophobia”, and label any who dare to disagree with every aspect of the pro-gay agenda as “gay bashing”. If I am to be vilified, excoriated, crucified or otherwise punished with long words, I would rather it was for what I said, not for what some overly-sensitive people thought I meant.
First up, Marriage is defined in my dictionary (The Oxford Encyclopedic Dictionary, 1992 edition, in case you were wondering) as “The legal union of a man and a woman in order to live together and often to have children”.
Hmmm… this means that “Gay Marriage” is a contradiction.
The cries from the gay-marriage lobby: “It’s time to change the definition“. Fair enough, but once you start changing it, where do you stop? Why stop at two? Three people? Four? What about siblings and Parents? How do you define “people”? Some say that since “we share most of our DNA with Chimpanzees” that they should enjoy the same legal protection as humans; does that mean that we humans can marry them? It reminds me of the whole legalization-of-drugs thing: wherever you draw the line there will always be someone who wants to hang a big hairy toe over the wrong side of it.
Call me old-fashioned, but I regard Marriage is a sacrament and a covenant – it was God’s idea. But we, the clean-limbed, shaven-armpitted, enlightened children of the West, have run it into the ground. We have cheapened it by marrying for the wrong reasons. We have made it disposable by providing quick-and-easy divorce laws. We have denigrated it in the media, by portraying marriage as either a means of personal fulfillment or a mechanism for exploitation. Everywhere you look, Marriage is either ridiculed or attacked.
One complaint I often hear is: “Lighten up. Why are you making such a big deal of this?” I’m glad you asked. If you believe that Marriage is a sacrament, a covenant relationship between one man and one woman, before God, for life… then yes, it is a big deal to me, and I refuse to “lighten up“.
I would counter with a question: “If Marriage is not a “big deal”, why do some Gays want it so badly?” Isn’t that a bit like going into your local KFC, demanding a Pizza, and then getting upset when they won’t give you one? Do you really want God’s blessing on something that is clearly and repeatedly described as offensive to God? In every major religion and culture worldwide?
While on the subject, let’s stop and look at the other major world religions. I am a Christian, which presumably makes me a bigoted homophobe in the eyes of most proponents of Gay Marriage. Okay, I can live with that. I suppose that means that if I was an Orthodox Jew or a Moslem I would presumably be far more “enlightened”; but wait… they both seem to believe that the correct response to homosexuality is Capital Punishment. Yet the gay marriage mob seem to regard Christians as their worst enemies, even though we stand for their right to live in a way that we may disagree with. How strange.
If two people of the same sex want a formal recognition of their life-long commitment to one another and the common-law rights and privileges that go with it (legal next of kin, beneficiaries etc), and I am fine with that. While I personally happen to believe that homosexuality is morally wrong (historically, rampant homosexuality strongly correlates with dying societies), I will fight for the rights of all to live as they please. Live with whom you want; do what you will.
But please don’t insult my God or my dictionary by calling it Marriage.