Things are about to get messy; hold on to your hats…
There has been a lot of blathering in the press lately about “Reproductive Rights”. Indeed there are those who believe that Reproductive Rights should be considered a basic human right. But it occurs to me that nothing has been said about the reproductive rights of men.
It’s almost as if they are not allowed to have any
- It takes two to make a baby, but only one to get an abortion.
- If the woman chooses to get an abortion, the man has no choice, whether he wants the baby or not.
- If the woman chooses to have the child, the man still has no choice — though he will be expected to provide for the child for at least eighteen years.
- Whether or not the man used birth control is irrelevant.
- Whether or not the women used birth control, or lied about it, or forgot her pill is also irrelevant – it is still his responsibility.
- If it subsequently turns out that he was not the father, it may still be his responsibility.
- If a man marries a “single mother” (aka divorced mother), and they subsequently divorce, he will often required to pay for the support of children that are not his.
It is the very definition of unfairness to expect one person to have to subsidize the mistakes of another. A man should not have to raise another man’s spawn, nor should he have to suffer the ignominy of having a slut for a wife — for if this sort of behavior is not the very definition of sluttery, what is? The logical extension of this train of thought is that if a man marries a woman who already has children, and they subsequently split, he should never be required to pay for the support and upkeep of children who are not his. On hearing this, many women will howl and yowl and foam at the mouth and flop on the floor; I would remind them that they cannot have both chivalry and equality; with equal rights come equal responsibilities.
It seems to me that a little balance may need to be bought to this area of life, so here are the changes I propose:
- Put a ring on it: Marriage is the logical framework in which to have create and raise children. No marriage, no child support — PERIOD. You want to get pregnant outside of marriage, or don’t want to marry, that’s fine. Your body, your decision, your dime.
- Mandatory paternity testing at birth: The birth of a baby is a wonderful thing; it is also the logical time to establish who the father is. If the husband is not the father, it is also an excellent time to find out so he can divorce her and kick her out with nothing (just as she would be inclined to do if he were had impregnated some other woman).
- Mandatory paternity testing in child support/divorce proceedings: It is a sad thing when a marriage dissolves, and the children are usually the saddest casualties . When this happens, the husband should be required by law to support those children who are identified as his if he is to have full access to them. This is right and proper. But he should never, under any circumstances, be required to support another man’s spawn, nor should he have to foot the bill for someone else’s irresponsibility. Nor should he be forced to pay for the upkeep of children he is not allowed to see. Abuse is real, but too many women have used accusations of abuse to separating fathers from their children while still helping themselves to the contents of his bank account.
No doubt a whole lot of folks will howl and yowl at my humble suggestions — and I suspect that they will all be women. This is to be expected, since they are mostly likely be the ones to lose out on the cash-and-prizes currently on offer from what is effectively a rigged game.
The alternative is that men will continue to walk away from the institution of marriage, on the very rational pretext that there is nothing in it for them.
Remember folks, “With reproductive rights come reproductive responsibilities”
Happy Fathers’ Day