When I became a backer

Over the past hundred years, feminism has made a lot of advances for women.

This is, on the whole, a good thing.

But recently, it seems like the costs of this equality have been borne increasingly by men.

  • No-fault divorce has allowed women to walk away from the marriage while keeping most of the benefits of being married; the majority of divorces are filed by women. Women therefore have a financial incentive to divorce.
  • The mother of the unborn child has the choice to abort, legally abandon, or give up for adoption. The father of the unborn child has no choice, only the court-mandated obligation to pay child support for up for eighteen years. The mother is under no obligation to spend any of that money on the child.
  • Women get custody of children 85% of the time. Men are expected to pay, based on what the court thinks they should earn (“imputed income”), and if they cannot, they are jailed.
  • Women can easily demand child support while denying access to children by the mere allegation of abuse.
  • At least a quarter of domestic violence victims are male, but they get no attention, resources or media coverage.
  • Men are many times more likely to be assaulted than women, and many times more likely to be killed.
  • Paternity rights are a mess, and women abuse then with impunity. Paternity fraud is rampant and unabated – between one million and two million American Males are unwittingly raising another man’s child.
  • Four out of five suicides are male.

The men’s rights movement (MRM) arose to draw attention to these and other injustices perpetrated against men.

MRM

I am not a supporter of the MRM. I consider them to be a bunch of unattractive/elderly/neck-bearded “gentlemen” whose approach seems to be limited to protests beseeching for their rights and needs to be taken into consideration. Their grievances are real, but their methods are, in my opinion, weak and ineffective, since it involves women doing things that are not in their interest (for instance, ending Paternity Fraud, or reforming No-fault Divorce).

The fact is, women like to control the narrative. And the narrative is a simple one: woman good, man bad. Woman victim, man abuser/rapist/violent. Mother wonderful/caring/nurturing, Father lazy/no-good/loser. That is the clarion-call of the media and the trump of feminism. Men are being raised without fathers and masculinity is being demonized in the eyes of the next generation of men.

Most men instinctively understand this and have simply made a rational choice to opt out of marriage, commitment, cohabitation and anything else that places them at risk. This is so bad that in Japan more half of the males between 20 and 40 have eschewed their “traditional” husband/father/provider roles and are having nothing to with women – with disastrous consequences for women who cannot find husbands. Ladies, the men ain’t buying what you are selling.

Cause, meet effect.

This leads me to the subject of this post. Cassie Jaye, a film-maker (and a feminist) set out to make a documentary on the MRM, called “The Red Pill”. During her research, she made a surprising discovery… that the MRM was not about oppressing women, demolishing feminism, or misogyny. She discovered that these fellows were misunderstood, and had a point. And what was originally intended to be a hatchet-piece turned into something else.

And that’s when her funding, mostly from feminist organizations, dried up. Apparently they didn’t want anything to challenge their preconceived narrative.

So she decided to go it alone. I discovered her, through this article. I then checked out her Kickstarter, and read her story. I found out that her intentions are good, her story is plausible, and her movie needs to be made.

And that’s when I became a backer.

Good luck Cassie.

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